Blueprint Truth #4
YOUNG WOMEN CAN REFLECT GOD
In Genesis 2:18, God said, “It is not good for man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him.” Since the beginning, a woman’s influence and gifting has been an integral part of God’s plan for His Kingdom. God views women as equally valuable to men and uniquely gifted in such a way, their usefulness is unmatched! God calls the woman “helper” and she is the compatible opposite to Adam. As helper, she is not less worthy than the man. In fact, the word helper in Genesis 2:18 (in Hebrew “ezer”) is the same word God uses for Himself! Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” Adam later names Eve woman (Genesis 2:23, “She shall be called woman because she was taken out of man.”) Finally, Adam calls her life-bearer (Genesis 3:20, “Now the man called his wife’s name Eve, because she was the mother of all the living.”). Woman, helper, life-bearer are important foundational descriptions for all women and areas of important exploration to teach your daughter.
God adores His daughters and He created them to be whole, cherished and loved. Sadly, our culture often portrays women as sexual objects to be used. This couldn’t be further from the truth! God’s greatest treasure is people, and you can be sure He will protect His girls! God has designed women in such a unique way, they are vulnerable due to their complex design. Similar to artwork that takes years to create and deserves proper care and display; or computer technology that is incredibly complex; the reality is that women need to be treated with care. However, this vulnerability does not mean weakness. A woman can be strong and vibrant, but she is complicated and that fact should be recognized and respected by everyone, including your daughter! No matter what age a woman is, there is intrinsic beauty in being female. God intentionally created women compatible yet different than men. The female body or “frame” is artwork on display and this living canvas, designed by God, needs to be treated as the valuable work of art it really is! Ephesians 2:10 says, “We are God’s workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works.” This means God designed all human beings uniquely for a purpose. The female frame has power that can be used for God’s purposes or the enemy’s, and what makes the difference is how each young lady chooses to present herself. To be her best, she should choose to display her beauty with creativity and modesty.
So… What is Modesty?
Many people make the mistake of thinking modesty is all about clothes. It’s not. Modesty, when practiced, will impact your clothing choices because modesty is a form of humility. Modesty means not thinking or acting in a way that says we are better than someone else or need attention. It also means not revealing too much about who we are. God made us for relationships, and we all want to be known deeply. Sadly, too often people in our culture rush to reveal parts of themselves: their bodies or telling too much of their personal story, because they want someone’s attention or they want someone to draw closer to them. We all need people to “know” us. In fact, intimacy (being known deeply) is the greatest human need we have! This desire is good, this method is not. Often the results of a young woman dressing inappropriately are many people will not want to know who she really is because they create an opinion of her based on her dress. Similarly, if someone brags all the time, trying to get people to think they are special, they actually sabotage their chances of having real friends because bragging pushes people away by virtue of natural human responses. On the other hand, humility in dress and speech usually encourage people to want to know the “real” you because they are not distracted by something else. This prescription leads people to trust you and build a real friendship. This is key information for your wonderful daughter who wants to be liked by her peers and accepted by those in authority.
Modesty is not just for women. I Peter 5:5 says, “You younger men, likewise, be subject to your elders; and all of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, for God is opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” How we dress and how we act tells people what we believe about ourselves. What does your daughter believe?
The Power of Body Language
In the beginning God created, and did so by speaking everything into existence. Genesis 1:3 says, “Then God said, ‘Let there be light’ and there was light.” God, who spoke all things into being, gave us the ability to “speak” with our mouths and indeed our whole bodies. In Genesis 1:28, God gave Adam and Eve dominion over creation, which gave them power and authority. Power comes in many forms, and the power of body language cannot be understated. We are created to “be” a picture of truth: reflecting our Creator. So what we say, what we wear, how we act and how we treat people, communicates something. Are we speaking truth or lies with our bodies? We are a body, we do just not have a body. We are integrated people, not dualistic. Therefore, what we say on the outside should match what we believe on the inside. Too often, our body (the first billboard of us) tells people the wrong message, or even a lie. I remember once when my husband and I were driving to church with all the kids and we saw a woman crossing the road wearing an outfit that “said” she was a bimbo, but the truth about her is that she is made in the image of God to be a royal princess! I declared to my husband, “She is lying with her body!” Immediately, my husband grabbed my arm and said, “You are not getting out of the car!” Ha Ha, He knew I wanted to free her to “be” who God made her and thankfully he kept me from making a scene in the intersection! Sometimes our precious daughters make this mistake, and it is our adult duty to stop them. Not only do the clothes we wear on the outside send a message, they actually affect us on the inside. A man in a uniform somehow feels and acts more dignified. A woman in a beautiful dress acts more ladylike and somehow feels noble. Psalm 45:13 says, “The King’s daughter is all glorious within, her clothing is interwoven with gold.” Do you see the connection? If your daughter wears clothes beneath her dignity, she will feel she is worth less than she is and this will impact her choices.
How Women Create, Communicate, Cooperate
Young women can do just about anything! Many have gifts and talents like drama, singing, organizing, cooking, sports, leadership, Bible study, teaching, serving, etc. For example: A young woman creates an environment at school that is fun by being funny, dressing up for spirit week or decorating her locker. She communicates love and truth with her speech, notes to friends or leading Bible study. She cooperates by working with teachers, coaches and classmates listening to the leading of the Holy Spirit, to do something for a friend or serve the homeless alongside friends. When you tell your daughter how special and influential women are in every-day life, you empower her to come alive in who she is. Your daughter should be reminded that the more she functions in all five aspects and utilizes her unique gifts, the more power she has to impact her world. The goal is to teach her to integrate her female design with the personality and gifts unique to her. If a woman doesn’t live in agreement with her complete picture as a woman, she misses a key part of her identity. We cannot raise daughters or sons to be gender neutral, or they will not fully come alive to the power they have as people, made in the image of God. Her sexuality, or feminine nature is not a casual bystander in her design that she can live without. It is a key blueprint feature she must learn to integrate throughout all of her aspects in order to really become who God designed her to be!